Many of you have already started back to your homeschool studies this month, but many more will begin in the weeks to come. As I begin my 11th year of teaching my kids at home later this month, I thought I’d share some of the hurdles I’ve had over the years. If you want to start the year out on the right foot and pace yourself so you’re still raring to go come October, then be sure you don’t trip up on these things.
1. Don’t set high expectations. Have a mindset that you’re just going to go through the motions of school and get everyone back into the routine. Anything learned will be a bonus. Lower the bar this week and attitudes will soar next week.
2. Don’t start with every subject. We started our first week with only Bible, math and language arts. And I don’t think we got to any language arts until the last day of the week. Kids have cobwebs in there. Give them time to work it out. It will improve. I promise. The next week add another subject or two. Keep adding something each week until you’re hitting it all.
3. Don’t schedule appointments. Interruptions are the kryptonite of your super homeschool, especially the first week back. Save outside appointments for afternoons after your first couple weeks are going well.
4. Don’t be discouraged by the tears. Yours or theirs. They will cry, most likely. You might, or will at least feel like it. It’s hard for everyone to get back into a routine. Give your children and yourself LOTS of grace.
5. Don’t skip prayer so you can get an early start. Better to gird your loins with prayer and start late, than to start on time ahead of the Lord.
6. Don’t make the beginning of homeschool also the week you start new chores, routines and organizational systems. We organized sorts like a fresh start. All the world is a blank slate waiting for plans of organizational bliss. Regular Chores. Ready-on-time-and-budget meals. Small laundry folded neatly by everyone over two. Homeschool planned to perfection. Why not just start everything at the same time? I’ll tell you why. . . it’s a bad idea. You’ll be fried before dinner on day 3. Go back and read Number 2. Add new things in slowly. One a week is fine. One a month is better. Lasting change stands a chance when you can slowly make it part of your life.
7. Don’t give up too soon on new curriculum. Give it time to work. Sometimes curricula just gels and we can hit the ground running. But other times it takes more effort to make something work. Give it a couple of weeks. And if you’re still struggling, get online for some help and encouragement. There are Yahoo groups for just about every curriculum out there. Join one and ask your questions. Or go to the vendors website and ask for help—they want to see their product put to use successfully and are often willing to answer your questions. Or ask a mom in your local support group.
8. Don’t forget to get lots of sleep, water and healthy breakfasts and lunches in everyone. This helps to alleviate some of the tears in Number 4.
9. Don’t give up coffee. In case you don’t get everything you need in Number 8, you must have this. And even if you do get everything you need in Number 8, you will still need this. Well, I need this. God bless ya if you don’t.
10. Don’t let your thoughts run wild. My first week back I found myself startled at the snail’s pace we were moving and my thoughts were overwhelmed with fear. How will we ever learn at this rate? Math took two whole hours. . . forget 180 days, we’ll be schooling 300 days a year at this rate. STOP. THE. TALKING. IN. YOUR. HEAD. Just do the next thing. Take the next step. And keep your eyes on Jesus.
This is a post from my archives that I thought was timely to share. Even advice I still need to hear.































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As a fellow 11th year homeschooling momma I wanted to tell you how I completely and totally agree with your excellent post! Well written and such solid advice for new homeschooling mommas.
Blessings to you and blessings on your schoolyear!
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Rachell, Thanks for reading and sharing in the veteran advice. Hope you have a wonderful homeschool year.
Thanks for these good reminders!
Allison, Thanks for commenting! Hope you have a great homeschool year.
I need to print this out and read it at the top of very hour! Thank you so much!
Karrie,
Whatever works! I could read it that often too! It’s so helpful to be reminded of the mistakes that we make so easily.Thanks for reading!
This post is really helpful. Thank you! We are going into our second year. First year was very difficult and stressful. I hope it gets better. You’ve given some great advice.
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Adriana,
Hope this helps take some of the stress out of this 2nd year. Teacher gift for year #2= go the pace of grace.
blessings!
Thanks for re-sharing.
I’m embracing a totally new approach this year. It’s how we’ve been DOING it, but I’ve been FIGHTING it. This year I am planning NOTHING. Well, except that I know they will work on this book or that book, but I’m not scehduling anything; I’m going to encourage this or that workbook. I’m going to have them read or listen to books LOTS. I’m going to take them to the library. We will do lots and we’ll learn lots, but I’m leaning toward really allowing them to unschool this year, as we have been doing through the summer. I have seen leaps and bounds of growth in all the kids this summer.
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LaDonna,
Good for you! I think a HUGE stride for homeschoolers is finding their own personal groove. Everyone’s is unique! Excited for you as you discover what works for teaching your little ones at home! God bless your year!
Thanks Melissa. This is becoming a classic. I think I’ve read it two or three times now and always enjoy the reminders.
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Thanks Lisa! Glad it’s a helpful reminder. Hope your year is a great one!
Great, great tips, Melissa. I’m totally saving these for when we really start homeschooling our son! Some of these speak right to my personality, too.
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Caroline,
Your little guy is young enough you could start a notebook of tips! I was reading WAY in advance with my 1st too and found that it really helped my mindset by the time we finally got around to ‘officially’ homeschooling. Blessings on your family!
thank you for the sage advice…we’re going into K this year and i’m excited, scared and nervous…i’ll be sure to take your advice!
Leah,
You have a fun year ahead of you! Kinder is all about forming some good habits, but mostly igniting the joy of learning. Keep it simple and focus on the 3Rs at this point. You’re going to have a great year!
Great insights!
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Thanks Sarah! I appreciate your comment : )
Hope you have a blessed school year!
These are some great tips on homeschooling. I never thought about changing up the daily schedule in order to get through every subject. No wonder I can never get through everything I want. Thanks for the heads up!
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Diana,
Thanks for commenting! Necessity really is the mother of invention! Hope you have a great year!
You have a great blog post here, nice insight and very well written..
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Hannahmay,
Thanks for your nice words. I’m so glad you enjoyed it and hope it helps you.
Oh, Melissa… How I needed this today. Thank you for sharing, for the encouragement. I tend to be one of the “It’s a blank slate so let’s do it ALL right RIGHT NOW” kind of girl. Thank you for the deep breath, pause, and perspective.
{{hugs}}
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So glad it blessed you, Heatherly. I’m just like you, I’ve just learned the hard way over the years. (((hugs))) remember, grace for the teacher!
Ahhhh, thanks for that post. I was starting to work myself up into quite a tizzy, feeling overwhelmed by all the GREAT and thousands of curriculums, systems, e-books, websites… blah blah blah… I was going in to an OCD, web-site hoard, ADD maze… Just couldn’t find my way out. Your post was just the life line I needed. Now I feel excited about homeschool tomorrow- I get to BREATHE and actually enjoy my children, as I’m giving stressing and worrying about every little detail. This is my first year HS’ing my 8 year old and ‘tot-schooling’ my 3 year old. So thank you from this Rookie… Well said and good timing.
KL~So glad it blessed you! I’ve been there and gotten in the same tizzy myself. Take it one day at a time. You’ll find a groove that works for you and your family. God bless your homeschool year!